After the indulgent behavior most of us engage in over the holidays, by January it is time to get motivated, get moving, and get back on track. Suddenly we are ready to dedicate more time to shrinking our waistlines, exercising more, eating healthier, and reducing financial debts. Every year we create that master list entitled RESOLUTIONS. This list is full of all the ways we feel we need to fix ourselves. If only we could just lose that last ten pounds, quit smoking, or save more money we will have finally found the key to ultimate happiness.
According to Forbes magazine and the University of Scranton, just 8% of people achieve their New Year Resolutions. The standard list of goals that we see ourselves writing down year after year may be just the thing preventing you from making healthy long term changes in life. Our ‘New Year’s List’ keeps us stuck in a place where our inner critic can still cling to the fact that, if this list exists, then “I’m not good enough.” Having goals creates a sense that these are things to be accomplished in the future as opposed to having them now. Here is the flaw in the whole system: we don’t need to change anything to be happy. Without following the narrow expectations about how we should look, live, and act, we can break out of the sad cycle of resolutions. Instead of trying to fix ourselves, we should learn to embrace who we are NOW.
The last resolution you will ever need is to accept and love yourself. When we look inside, beyond the level of undesired habits, we can see how to empower ourselves with compassion, kindness, and self-love. If this is a new concept, you may be asking; What does self-love look like? How can I start loving myself more daily? When you love yourself you are able to change your story and stop believing the negative self-talk about your worth, capabilities, and successes or failures in your life. Take some time to see all the potential and all the good that surrounds you.
When you start to love yourself, you can forgive yourself for the things in your past that have been keeping you stuck in bad habits, and stuck in life. Self-love is about getting real clear, and finding new focus. Self-love is about getting honest with yourself and accepting where you are. So break out that mirror, peer into your own eyes and start a love affair with the most important person in your life. Celebrate YOU and the rest will come.